First thing right off, you seem to think that being a slut is a bad thing? Except you're kind of flip-floppy on that. You say that you know that the word slut has some negative connotations, but that you think being a slut is a choice. Which, yes, it is a choice! It is the choice to have lots of sex. But you kinda trailed off there. You acknowledge that "slut" has negative connotations....then never say whether or not you agree with the negative connotations. So I'm gonna assume that you think being a slut is a bad thing, because overall you're being very critical of slut-ness*. That's not cool! So you don't wanna have lots of casual sex, that's cool. Neither do I! But some people do, and that's okay. It's their life, it's none of my business if they want to have casual sex! In fact, more power to them, because sex is fun and there's nothing wrong with wanting lots of it, from lots of people. So let's stop trying to say it's bad to do it, okay?
Oh look, you do think being a slut is bad, you say so at the end of the video! Maybe you should have said it here too, just to clarify things.
Next, you talk about one night stands. You don't get why people want them, pretty much. Because girls have body issues, and boys are dangerous! Except maybe you should wonder why your insistence that everyone has body issues should stop people from doing what they want. Maybe people don't have body issues as bad as you think they do? And even if they are as bad as all that, it's a good thing that body issues don't stop people from going after what they want (like sex). Besides, what could be better for body issues than getting ass-fucking-naked in front of someone and seeing how somebody else finds your body to be totally awesome tonight, instead of standing six inches from the mirror and hyper-focusing on every pound and pimple until you're so convinced at your hideousness that you never ever undress in front of anybody ever. Sure, it's better to realize how awesome you look on your own and learn to love your body because it's gorgeous rather than because other people like it, but sometimes that's hard and it's nice to take a shortcut to feeling totally hot. Doing one of these things does not automatically negate doing the other thing as well.
And you say boys are dangerous because what if the stranger is into rape or murder! You should not go home with him but instead google his name and get with him after that! Except, you know, a dude is not going to say on his Facebook wall, "Hey tonight I'm gonna go to the bar and find a lady to take home and rape and murder!" The vast majority of rapes and murders are committed by people known to the victim. Googling his name and finding out where he went to high school will not suddenly let you know whether he's a safe dude to sleep with. And saying that you should not be a slut and go around sleeping with people just in case somebody turns out to be a rapist/murderer, is just another way of saying "if you are raped/murdered, it is your own fault because you were a slut." And that is not cool at all. Don't go victim-blaming, it is never ever the victim's fault that somebody else is evil and attacked them. If anybody ever thinks that a victim is ever to blame for their rape, then they can just fuck right off. Seriously. Go away, get off my blog, you are not welcome here.
Now we've moved on to the "stupid sluts" part. Yeah, I wish more people would admit that any sexual behaviour is technically sex, even if they want to put special importance on the penis-in-vagina kind. But sex means something different to everybody, and you shouldn't judge people just because their definition is different from yours.
I literally made a D: face at the pregnant-slut part. What!? Jenna, Jenna, why is it so important to you who the fetus's dad is? Why does it have to make you feel weird that you don't know, or that you don't think that the mom-to-be knows? Guess what, who the dad is maybe isn't all that important. Single parents can raise kids fine, and the real father is never the guy who donated some genetic material but the guy/guys that are actually there for the kid and give it a person to look up to, as a father-type person. But not having a father-type person is not inherently bad, because there are so many people who have been raised by just moms, or by two moms even! It's really none of your business that the pregnant lady slept with lots of people, so "feeling weird" about it is kind of intrusive, especially if feeling weird about it means you later go online and tell the world how terrible you think they are for making you feel weird. Just be happy that the mom-to-be is happy about her mom-to-be status, ok?
Please don't assume that all sluts are making bad decisions, or are having lots of sex because of a lack of respect for themselves or something. Casual sex is not inherently a bad decision, it's just a decision that some people make that you or I would not make. It's a different decision. And it's really insulting to say that people only choose it because they have no self-respect. Have you never read sex-positive feminist blogs? Most of the sluts I am familiar with have self-respect coming out of their ears! How many people you have sex with does not necessarily correlate to absolutely anything other than, you know, the number of sexual partners you've had. And possibly the amount of sex you've had? But there are lots of people who have had lots of sex with a few partners, so I dunno. I'm not really a sex mathematician. Sexematician? Mathemasexian? There's gotta be a pun for this.
I'll grant you a few points, Jenna. It's important to practice safe sex. Use a condom, people! STDs are bad! It's a dick move to have sex with a guy when you know he has a girlfriend, because it's wrong to hurt other people like that. Don't let people pressure you into having sex you don't want (ie, rape), and don't feel pressured to have sex if you only want to have sex because it's cool . Have sex because you want to have sex, not because cool people have sex (while I have not met anyone who has done this, I'm not going to say that nobody ever did because hey, there's a lot of reasons people have had sex, how should I know them all). And having friends around who can help you from getting into trouble by, say, trying to stop a creeper from taking advantage of you if you've had too much to drink or somebody slipped you something is awesome. Or being a person who is willing to help strangers from being taken advantage of like that! But don't judge people because they sleep with what you think is too many people. Other people's sex lives are none of your business, and it's wrong to slut-shame people. There's enough of that in the world already, we don't need more poison in the blow gun dart of sexism.
But I am not mad at you, Jenna. I'm just disappointed, parent-style. Like I said at the beginning of this post, I think you're cool and I like a lot of the videos you've made. I still think you're cool! But I also think that you've succumbed to a lot of very negative messages that lots of other people have also internalized regarding sex and women's sexuality in particular. You say in the video that you love when people disagree with you and start discussions, and I sincerely hope that you listen to the discussions that your video started and see what made your video so sexist and problematic that the internet kind of exploded at it, even if you don't change your mind about any of the subject matter.
PS: I could not help but notice that your entire video was aimed at slut-shaming women. I know that the video was made as a "things I don't understand about women" thing, but I gotta help but wonder if your opinions on slutty guys are just as toxic as your opinions on slutty women? Ladies have gotten the short end of the slut stick, you know. When guys sleep around it's just what guys do, but if women do it then they are demonized and labelled sluts. Even when people try to shame a man for sleeping with lots of ladies, it is pretty much always a much milder shaming than a woman would get. Just something to think about.
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